Recent debates online have centered on the value of parents versus non-parents, sparked in part by controversial remarks from Republican vice-presidential candidate JD Vance. His comments about “childless cat ladies” and proposals for additional votes for parents have fueled discussions.
Despite the inflammatory nature of Vance’s statements—though he has claimed they were meant sarcastically—there is a broader need for a balanced family policy that benefits all families and avoids further polarization. Discussions should focus on recognizing the societal contributions of parenting without devaluing the role of non-parents, including women who choose not to or cannot have children.
Our society benefits greatly from childless adults, such as loving aunts, uncles, and community members, as well as religious figures dedicated to spiritual service. It’s crucial to avoid pressuring those who do not wish to parent or who face difficulties in doing so.
President Theodore Roosevelt once praised mothers as pivotal to society, even placing them above Civil War veterans in his regard. His sentiments, while rooted in an earlier era, underscore the enduring value of parenting. Angela Garbes, in “Essential Labor: Mothering as Social Change,” emphasizes that caregiving is a communal responsibility essential for societal functioning.
Yet, many individuals face challenges in achieving their desired family sizes and caregivers struggle financially. A 2023 study revealed a disparity between desired and actual fertility rates in the U.S., highlighting the complicated nature of family planning.
While opinions on issues like abortion access are varied, the idea that supporting family goals benefits society remains a common thread. The potential for bipartisan support for a national family policy exists, as seen in past legislative successes and recent comments from figures like Gov. Tim Walz (D-Minn.), who supports a national paid family leave law.
The goal should be to foster a supportive environment for all families, regardless of political affiliation. By prioritizing stable, quality family life, we can work toward a more inclusive and less divisive approach.